Ladies, Gentlemen and most importantly of all, DateSpacers, we’re proud to present to you a new advice columnist who’s got the answers to all your romantic queries. And we mean all the answers. Say hello to Letty Livingston. She is an internationally acclaimed dating coach, relationship counselor and sexpert. Her sassy and no-nonsense advice on the subjects of dating, relationships and sex has been in over forty publications and enjoyed for the better part of a decade, being read by millions of people from all over the globe each month. We’ll let her introduce herself and send her on her maiden voyage. Check in later in the week for further help from her in matters of love.

Hey DateSpacers,
My name is Letty Livingston and besides being a sophisticated, stylish and sexy girl-about-town, I am what you can call your virtual wing-girl who is here to help you navigate your uncharted course in the sea of love. I am really happy to be a part of the DateSpaces family. I have years of experience helping hopeful (and some hopeless) daters from every dot on the map, and will do my best to make your dating experiences more pleasurable.

Let me assist you with your: dating dexterity, communication skills, sexual confidence, romantic relationships, and overall appeal to the opposite sex. Send in your questions about dating, sex or romantic relationships to help@letlettyhelp.com, along with your age. No attachments. Write ‘DateSpacer’ in the subject line. All submissions are considered for publication and names are kept in the strictest of confidence. I will reply to you personally and will publish some of the questions that have a broader appeal here in my DateSpaces column. Be sure to check in periodically to pick up some pointers.

Dear Letty,
Why don’t women know that when a guy says, “I love you!” during sex it is only because he is enjoying himself and not because he really loves her? I tell women I love them all the time in order to get laid and it works. You’d figure they would become wise to the game by now. My mother and sisters, in fact all of my female friends say it is wrong. Are they right? Am I an asshole for doing what everyone else does?
Brazen BSer (25)

Dear Brazen,
I am sure your mother also asked you if you’d jump off of a bridge if everyone else did. That is what we are dealing with here. Is it okay to loot stores during a riot or after a hurricane? Is cheating on exams or your taxes alright just because so many others do it? No. Plain and simple.

BB, it is your life and if you want to go around telling women you love them in order to get them to sleep with you, go ahead. But all it proves is that you are a shortsighted ass. Not all women fall for that line and you will always find someone that will, but you are the one who is going to get the reputation for being a jerk. Messing with others’ emotions tends to have a way of boomeranging on people and eventually it is going to come back and bite you in the butt.

Sure you are getting women to give it up, but at what cost? You are breaking hearts while simultaneously selling yourself short. Why not let a woman fall for you without the lies and line of BS? I’ll tell you why. It is because you are afraid that you won’t be able to get any without saying I love you.

Lack of confidence is at the root of many a small man’s woes. Be bigger than that and cut the crap. Grow up and be a guy that a woman would be happy to love instead of one she regrets ever hearing those three little words from. Women want to be loved and sure, hearing it when having sex fulfills a deep-seated desire. So the next time you tell a woman you love her, let it be true and the rewards will last for more than three-and-a-half minutes. I promise.
LL

Dear Letty,
I met a guy about 10 months ago and everything was going well until he started to ask me for odd sex; peculiar positions, kinky stuff and things I never did before in my life. At first, I was curious and was okay, accepting the games he showed me. But, after a few times, I knew deep down in my heart that I did not like them and started to feel weird about him. I thought that he was not a real man and that made me feel estranged from him. On the other hand, he was very caring and thoughtful toward me and took very good care of me. We finally split-up and now I feel so lonely and very sad. I still think of our good times together and continue to compare his good heart with other guys’ behavior. What is your advice about this situation?
Not So Kinky (21)

Dear NSK,
Sweetie, part of my job is to be able to read between the lines and get to the crux of people’s issues with the fragments provided. So, that being said, listen, just because a guy wants you to touch and/or penetrate his rectum does not make him any less of a man. In fact, the stimulation of a man’s prostate, from inside of his body, provides him a stronger and more satisfying orgasm.

Perhaps due to your age, upbringing or a combination thereof you have not been exposed to guys who are educated and skilled in finding ways to heighten their sexual experiences beyond puritanical methods. Quite possibly your conventionality may be too much to overcome and the two of you are not sexually compatible. Then again, perchance you are ready to broaden your horizons and learn new ways of enjoying a partner. You did say he was very caring and thoughtful, and as long as it extended to aspects of your relationship outside of the bedroom, consider what you can accept and ask yourself if it is time to start to become an open-minded, sexually adventurous person.
LL

©2008 Letty Livingston: Let Letty Help is intended as inspiring and engaging advice and not an alternative for therapeutic intervention, should it be needed.

Read more of Letty Livingston’s sage words at http://blog.myspace.com/lettylivingston