Dear Letty,
The Olympics has really spiced up my relationship. I’ve been dating a guy who is American for about a year, and quite frankly, we’ve gotten to the end of our honeymoon phase. We were starting to get in a rut when it came to our sex life. I am Chinese, albeit fourth generation, but the competition between the athletes of our respective countries has put quite a kick in the frequency and spontaneity of our lovemaking. This has been especially evident during and after the gymnastic events. I don’t know if my guy enjoys the little hard-bodies flipping through the air and it turns him on, or if it is my eating up the eye candy of the men’s gymnasts’ bodies, but we really go at it when the two teams go head-to-head. I am enjoying the heck out of the summer games. I am concerned as to what is going to happen when the Olympics comes to an end. Will we fall back into the same old pattern of sex on Saturday night? How can we keep the Olympic flame alive?
China Doll (28)
Dear CD,
OMG! I love all the athletic prowess displayed by those hard working men and women, and can certainly see how it would be a turn on. However, it may not necessarily be the flesh that is spurring the sex of late for you; it can be the spirit of competition that drives you two to engage in your own grappling matches. If it is strictly the skin that is a turn-on, the answer is simple, buy some porn and inject it into your lives. But I think it is deeper than that and really feel that the competitiveness that is brought to the surface during the Olympics can be kept alive in your relationship by your engaging in activities that get you two in head-to-head face-offs. You can mix some skin into it as well by donning some Spandex and racing each other to the top of a rock climbing wall, mountain biking down a dune, or kayaking a white water river. These tests of endurance will keep your competitive spirits alive, as well as keep your bodies hard and your testosterone levels peaked. Try some of them out and I bet that you both come out as winners!
LL
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To be quite honest, I haven’t been watching the Olympics. As a matter of fact, I watch very little television and when I do, it’s usually the History Channel, Comedy Central, or SpeedTV (for the Formula One Grand Prix racing).
I’ve always found role-playing to be a very effective method for keeping the passion alive in a relationship. In one of my past relationships, my partner and I jotted down on small squares of paper some fantasy scenarios that the two of us could play out. These were folded up and put into one of those purple cloth drawstring bags that come with a bottle of Crown Royal. Whenever the mood struck us, one of us would reach into the bag and pull out a scenario for us to play.
GOOD TIMES!!!
I have to admit that it was rather embarrassing for my girlfriend at the time when her mother was over visiting one day and found the bag on the coffee table. Curiosity got the better of her and she looked inside when my girlfriend had gone to the kitchen to get them some refreshments.
Imagine her mother’s shock when she read: “Cop and Hooker,” “Plumber and Housewife,” “Teacher and student,” “Nurse and Patient,” “Doctor and Patient,” “Girl Scout Selling Cookies,” etc. (We had DOZENS of scenarios!)
I was just thankful that I wasn’t at home at the time and Farrah (my girlfriend at the time) had to explain it all to her mother. However, I did receive some rather strange looks from her mother when I got home. I didn’t understand the reason for these looks until my girlfriend explained it all to me after her mother had left.
Sounds like a lot of people should adopt that idea, the one about jotting down scenarios, not about inviting one’s mother to read the ideas. The odd looks could have been because she read the one about the mother-of-the-bride and the groom.
xo
LL
I liked the idea above.
I liked Jay’s idea, I meant
Me too Heather! I am sure your comment will bring a smile to Jay’s face.
xo
LL