DateSpacers, you’ve heard us discuss the economy a few times. I’m here to add one more thought during these trying times: when it comes to dating and finding the right person, it’s not the time to scrimp.

A few years ago, on my second date, my future wife and I went out to an Italian restaurant. The check came and I was ready to tip my customary “twice the tax.” Before I did so, however, I asked her what she usually tips, just to get the 411. Mind you, she used to waitress in college, so she’s quite sensitive to matters concerning what members of the service industry makes. Without batting an eye, she said, “Twenty percent.”

Had I gone ahead with my lower tipping plan, she might have thought I was a complete cheapskate. So here’s a tip for all you daters who are thinking about their budgets right now: if you have someone you think might be worth a long-term relationship, don’t cut corners. It doesn’t just apply to tipping at a restaurant. Don’t just think of cheap options when considering dates. Think of your potential mate as a long-term investment in a volatile stock. If you spend the money and prove you can provide for both yourself and your future family, it’s a definite plus.

Even in the 21st century, where gender roles have melted away and both men and women are providing income, I think women still want to feel that their guy will spend on them, no matter what the circumstance is. If you’re willing to spend that extra few bucks on a tip paying for an expensive meal, you’re showing that if she’s in need, you’ll be there financially.

Obviously, if you’re under a tight budget, you can make the changes elsewhere. Bring your lunch to work instead of buying it during the day. Go out less with your buddies. There’s easy ways to generate the money for a potential mate if you see that possible future with her.