How to choose a good mate
Choices, choices. How does a person decide that they like one person over another? It is definitely more than just seeing a good looking guy/girl out there and being sold for life. I believe it has a lot to do with a whole mixture of different factors. Kinda like making a cake. You have to add in all of these ingredients until you get the mix for the cake that you like the best. One person may like carrot cake, while another prefers chocolate cake. They just add different things to their batter and they come up with the cake that suits them the best. I believe finding your soul mate is the same way. Here are some of the ingredients that we all add to our cakes:
Pheromones. What are pheromones you may ask? Well, scientists have discovered that human beings are attracted to one another by the pheromones that they give off. According to the dictionary, a pheromone is a chemical signal that triggers a natural response in another member of the same species. Pheromones can do many things but the one I’m most interested in is it can attract you to your future mate. How cool is that, you are actually chemically attracted to your lovers. Pretty neat stuff, huh. And if Alex Trebek ever asks you, you’ll now know the answer.
Personal preference. This is an easy one. It goes back to what type of cake do you prefer. Do you like vanilla, do you like coconut or do you like red velvet cake? See we are all very different. We have different ideas of what makes someone attractive. That is why you should never get upset if someone is not attracted to you. It just means that you are a lemon cake and he prefers strawberry. And a lemon cake can’t be a strawberry cake no matter what. It just doesn’t work that way. But you can rest assured that there is someone out there that just loves lemon cake.
Common Interests. I like to go to movies, a lot. I could never be with someone that doesn’t like to hit a theatre with a big box of popcorn and a diet coke (ok, he can drink whatever he wants but diet coke for me). See that is what I’m into. I wouldn’t be with a man that doesn’t like going to the movies. Or in reverse, I’m not a big sleeping outdoors fan. Don’t get me wrong, I love hiking, I love seeing nature but I also love sleeping in a bed. I don’t do roughing it really well. I just don’t. I sometimes wish I could be that girl but that is just not me. If there was a guy that didn’t want to just go camping with his friends and he needed a girlfriend that would go to a different campground every week, then I wouldn’t be his cup of tea. See what I mean.
Sexual Attraction. OK, this may sound like pheromones again but it’s not. I’m talking about let’s get naughty in the sheets attraction (I don’t think scientists would exactly lump this in with pheromones.) I’m talking about a person that you can see yourself with night after night even after the initial sparks wears off. The chase is fun but after you have made your catch do you still want your catch and only your catch? Or would you get bored? What if your catch gains a little bit of weight? Would you still have that sexual attraction? This is really important. And a question you should be asking yourself when you are getting into a serious relationship.
See there are a lot of factors that go into finding your perfect mate. That person has to be attractive to you, share your common interests, have these pheromones that you crave and be your type of cake. Pretty easy, right? Ok, not really but I think there is one ingredient that I would like to throw in: destiny. I believe that there is someone out there for everyone. I know, I’m a hopeless romantic but I truly believe in that. I think you will find that person when the time is right. Of course, you still need to put yourself out there and keep your eyes open but I believe your perfect match is looking for you, too. And I bet you’ll agree with me that he/she will also be the yummiest piece of (your preference) cake you have ever tasted.
