Finally! Some good weather is coming our way…which means some of our staff members are beginning to feel the effects of Spring allergies. Aaaahh-choo!

Anyhoo, here’s this week’s question from Sam from Yonkers, who cornered us at a party and asked our advice about the following: “I want to ask out my friend’s ex-girlfriend. They’ve been broken up for over a year and I’ve been in touch with her a lot. Even when they were dating, we hung out without my friend, which was fine with him then. Is that okay to do?”

G’morning, DateSpacers. You’ll notice the above headline is also the nickname for Wrigley Field. So, happy Opening Day (even though Boston and Oakland opened in Japan and Washington/Atlanta played last night…). Here’s an fascinating question from Cara in Forest Hills: “I’ve been dating this guy for a little while, but I found out that I actually like his friend more. And I think his friend likes me, too. Am I allowed to break up with the guy and date his friend?”

We’ve given you a lot of great advice on what to do in a relationship. But, DateSpacers, we’re realistic - things don’t always work out. So to prepare you for those possibilities, we’re giving you a series on how to break up. Part I can be found here. Your author is H.C. Ingram.

Some of you who read this will wonder why the hell anyone would need to be told “how to tell if they should break up.” Let me congratulate you, it is nice to be self-aware, bouncing through life in an uncluttered, uncomplicated manner. I’m not suggesting such self-awareness is indicative of a lack depth, merely that it helps. Also you can stop reading now.

It is a fact of life that the unknown often frightens us. Tourney Time makes this abundantly clear. We toss and turn late at night wondering: Will the one seeds prevail? Did I pick the right upsets? Will Tim, that self-satisfied jerk in accounting with the fraternity stein at his desk and the over-applied Old Spice Pure Sport and the compensatingly-”firm” handshake win the damn pool again?

As we’ve seen time and time again, the dating world is no different—what we don’t know strikes fear in our hearts. This, of course, is why we find the infamous Blind Date so terrifying. We question. We doubt. We anticipate. We suffer. David from Oceanside sums it up nicely: “I hate blind dates. What can I do to make them less awkward and more fun?”

We’ve given you a lot of great advice on what to do in a relationship. But, DateSpacers, we’re realistic - things don’t always work out. So to prepare you for those possibilities, we’re giving you a series on how to break up. Your author is H.C. Ingram.

Happy St. Paddy’s Day! Here at DateSpaces, we love this particular time of the year because it signifies that spring is about to be sprung. We also realize that as “spring fever” is about to come into full bloom, we are presented with choices that will affect our lives for the rest of the year to come. For instance, this weekend we may ask ourselves, “Should I have just one more green beer?” or, “Should I put this emerald-sequined shirt and wig set on layaway?” In case you were wondering, the answer to both of those questions is a resounding NO.

Jim A. from Mastic has one of those common queries that always tend to pop up around springtime. He says, “I really like my coworker and I think the feeling is mutual. I know that some consider office romance a serious no-no. How do I broach the subject, or is that a terrible idea in the first place?” Jim, we have good news and bad news for you.

Wow. We’re going to be honest with you. We were totally shocked when you asked us this question, but you went there, and well…we’re there now. Clearly, Ask Our Staff and the General Readership have entered a new stage in the relationship. It’s ok though. We were going to ask you where things stood next week anyway. So thank you for jumping on that. It really showed a lot of confidence and commitment on your part, and we appreciate that. Now, we can feel perfectly comfortable discussing issues related to scatology. We received a question from a reader who wanted to know when (or if!) it was ok to…let things out in front of the significant other.

Happy March, DateSpacers. We received a question from someone who preferred to stay anonymous. She wrote, “I’ve been seeing this guy who is very secretive. I suspect he has a girlfriend and is cheating on her with me. How do I find out?”

This is a tricky one. First, we have to ask a few questions for you to answer:

Due to our ever-growing readership, we’ve decided to bring back a few oldies but goodies from our vault of advice. Here’s one that applied to last weekend, when we had a few friends at a party asking us how best to talk to a couple of women they were eyeing at the bar. Here’s our take.

Happy Monday, DateSpacers. Hope you had a busy weekend spent at parties, soirées and even the occasional hootenanny. Of course, some of you are probably asking the same question after the 5,473,923rd gathering surrounded by people you don’t know. It’s another question we get asked frequently: what is the best way to meet complete strangers at parties?

“So, what are we?” Ah, the timeworn question exceeded in age and import only by the existential “Who am I?” Yes, for most of us there comes a time in any relationship…wait, maybe “relationship” is too loaded…let’s see…there comes a time in any potentially-romantically-committed interpersonal interaction in which we wonder just exactly what the nature of that interaction is. Patrick of Greenpoint sums it up for us nicely: “I’ve been on several dates with this person over the last few weeks. It feels like we’re ‘together’ but I just can’t tell. So, are we dating or what?”